When it comes to dating there are a lot of things to take into consideration before heading out on the town, especially if it’s a first date. The way that you look, smell, where you’re going, and even how far sexually you’re willing to go will all factor into how successful the night is. Part of the deciding factor related to this science of attraction will rely on your kissing style and what it says about you. You might be surprised to find that the way your lips land on a man or woman is what makes or breaks it for you.
Cupping The Head
This is a classic move, and a rather passionate one, but it can be taken one of two ways. Cupping the head is a sign of dominance, and if the right amount of pressure and guidance is involved then it can feel quite nice and make the receiver feel safe, protected, and sexually wanted. On the other hand if this move gets too aggressive it could seem needy, controlling and a little bit alarming. Judi James of Yahoo Lifestyle expresses:
“This is one of the most romantic techniques that also puts you in charge of steering, showing gentle dominance.”
Try this if you want to let your date know that you’re in control and are respectful but dominant. Likewise, if your date tries it with you you’ll know whether you want to melt into the kiss or think up a last minute excuse and ditch before things get too heated. This isn’t a good tactic too early in the night, especially if it is the first time that you’re out with someone.
An innocent peck on the cheek or lips is a great expression of attraction without getting too sexual too fast. This can also mean that you or your partner isn’t that interested though, so you’ve got to be careful that it isn’t too fleeting, and that the pressure is just right. A peck that lasts too long can be awkward, while one that barely grazes your date’s lips will leave him or her wondering if you’re even interested.
Tongue In Mouth
The French kiss has fast become a timeless symbol of sexuality; with the sensual gesture of a tongue slipping between lips, it’s far more intimate than a regular peck on the mouth. This kiss generally sends the signal that sex is on the agenda, without being too pushy. Gwendolyn Bond-Upson of YourTango.com writes:
“Moving your open lips against each other with some tongue interplay can be very sweet, very hot, very passionate, or all of the above.”
This is a great kiss for almost any occasion because you can alter the level of passion involved by using only the tip of the tongue, or turning it into a full on make out session.
Bites And Nibbles
There’s nothing sexier than somebody nipping at the lower lip, unless it’s so rough it draws blood. You’ve got to be careful where this move is concerned, but generally, a nip or a suck on the lip seems to represent a want for more. It’s a good way to test the waters, and tells your mate that you’re interested, without seeming too desperate. Bethany Heitman of Cosmopolitan Magazine explains:
“When he nibbles on your bottom lip and then pulls away or kisses you everywhere but your mouth, he’s baiting you.”
It sets the mood for something more, but is more innocent in its suggestion than a tongue between the lips. This kissing style will leave them guessing, and says you’re mysterious, flirty, and definitely interested in the possibility of sex.